Martha S. RAY

December 3, 1915 ~ November 7, 2008

Mrs. Martha Sokol Ray of Farmington (& formerly of Kirkwood, MO.,) passed away Friday, Nov. 7, 2008, at her Farmington Presbyterian Manor residence, at the age of 92 years, 11 months & 4 days. Martha was born Dec.3, 1915, in Chicago, IL., to Louis & Marie 'Lorenze' Sokol. She was preceded-in-death by her husband, Thomas L. Ray, Sr., and 1 brother, Louis Sokol.

Martha was a active member of Grace Episcopal Church in Kirkwood; graduated 2nd in her class @ Univ. of Chicago School of Business, Phi Beta Kappa. Following graduation she worked in Chicago & New York's Wall Street. In 1942 she married Thomas L. Ray, USNR. After WWII, he obtained a position with Mercantile Trust Co. & they moved to St. Louis. She was a founding member of the Second Fiddle, benefiting the St. Louis Symphony & later volunteered at the Scholarshop. She was an active member of the Junior League. Martha was loved by many & was a shining example with her grace, wit & intelligence.

Martha was the Mother of Judge Thomas L. (& Linda) Ray, of Farmington; John S. (& Sue) Ray, of Napa, CA; Nancy M. Ray, of Deerfield, NH; Sarah E. Ray, of St. Louis and Richard L. (& Missey) Ray, of Fenton, MO. Also Grandmother of 6: Sarah M. Ray; Tema Farber; Haley Ray; Leah Farber; Kelsey Ray & Bobby Ray.

Memorial Service : Friday, 11 am, Nov. 14, 2008, at Grace Episcopal Church, 514 E. Argonne Drive, Kirkwood, MO. 63122 (314) 821.1806

Interment : Friday, 12 Noon, Nov. 14, 2008, at Oak Hill Cemetery, 10305 Big Bend Blvd., Kirkwood, MO. (314) 821.4511

Memorials may be made to * Farmington Presbyterian Manor; * St. Louis Symphony Orchestra &/or * Grace Episcopal Church,

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  1. To the Ray Family, You have my sympathy in the death of your mother. She was such a gentle lady, I can't remember of ever hearing her complain about anything at the Manor. Tom, she was so proud of you(I really don't know your siblings) and enjoyed hearing about the times when my partner and I played golf against you and Linda. She always asked who won and if you played good. Of course I would tell her what she wanted to hear. She was most proud when I would tell her what a fine son she raised. She would just beam!! I know that God was happy to call her one of his own. May HE have HIS arms around each of you at this difficult time.

  2. May God give you peace during this time of sorrow. Your mother will be missed by many. Please know how sorry we are for your loss. Roger & Judy Pratt

  3. Dear Family and Friends of Martha Ray: I am writing to offer my condolences on behalf of all of us at ScholarShop and The Scholarship Foundation who knew and remember Martha so fondly. Your mother, grandmother, and friend was a gracious presence, a hard worker, and always willing to learn. The work we do here is vitally important, but not always glamorous, but that did not matter to Martha Ray. She brought with her a smile and a grace that was contagious. Her absence from this world is indeed a loss. Faith Sandler Executive Director The Scholarship Foundation of St. Louis

  4. Linda,Tom and Sarah…Sorry to hear of the passing of your mother and grandmother. May God Bless you today and in the days to come as you live without her. Hold fast to the wonderful memories of times spent with her and family. No one can take those from you. Elaine and Kathleen Castor

  5. Tom, Linda, and Sarah, I was so sorry to hear of your loss. I will be praying for you as you endure this difficult time.

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